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Wednesday, October 21, 2015
365 Days of Thank You - Day 2
10/20/15 Dear Dunkin Donuts, Thank you for the halloween decorations in your Jaffrey location - my son loved the big blow up spider and it made me happy to see him have such sweet simple fun on a quick coffee run! Thanks again, Paige #365daysofgratitude
Monday, October 19, 2015
365 Days of Gratitude - Thank You letters -
10/19/15 - It is thanksgiving season and everyone is talking THANKS. I try my best to live a life of gratitude but that is not always easy. I read in a magazine recently about a person who wrote a thank you card every day --one every day for 365 days! That is amazing and I can't get it out of my head. I am inspired by the amount of gratitude that conjures. I don't have the time or money for stamps for such a lofty endeavor but I am attempting to adapt such a feat for myself - Starting today I am going to post a thank you card, every day for 365 days. I am going to try. I am going to do my best. I hope you will help me. It won't be easy but I accept the challenge given to self. I am going to make these posts private/close friends for the most part, as I think of this as a self-journey-of thanks-- but if you would like to follow them please comment below. If you would like to join me in this challenge start each post with the date example 10/19/15 of gratitude and social experiment label your posts #365daysofgratitude
Day 1- Dear Melanie, Thank you for the photo of us at Henry's Birthday party. It was such a small gesture but it truly means the world to me. It is very rare now for people gift you with real photos anymore - everything is digital and the act of giving a real photo, and framed at that - is a true gesture of kindness. and has inspired me to embark on 365 days of gratitude, an idea I have had for weeks now. Thank You so much. Love, Paige #365daysofgratitude
Day 1- Dear Melanie, Thank you for the photo of us at Henry's Birthday party. It was such a small gesture but it truly means the world to me. It is very rare now for people gift you with real photos anymore - everything is digital and the act of giving a real photo, and framed at that - is a true gesture of kindness. and has inspired me to embark on 365 days of gratitude, an idea I have had for weeks now. Thank You so much. Love, Paige #365daysofgratitude
Thursday, April 30, 2015
Dear Free Range Parents, #droneparenting
Dear Free Range Parents,
I get it. I do. You want your kids independent and you value their choices as future adults. You want to give them the "opportunity to learn to calm themselves, assess their situation, and try to problem solve their own way out of it. to learn that to learn that falling is possible but worth the risk, and that they can, in fact, get up again". I am calling out this blog in particular:
http://patch.com/california/alameda/bp--please-dont-help-my-kids
Because I have to push back. I am getting so tired of all these blogs circulating via facebook with parents calling out other parents for helping their kids. Because
you want to know what? I am an attentive parent and I am not going to apologize for it anymore.
On one part I like it. I want all those things for my kid too. But I also want my kids to live a long and healthy life. I have the internet so I read all the time about stupid accidents that happen to kids and I would never forgive myself if I was not there. So I try to find a balance. I do not want to be a "HELICOPTER" But honestly if I have to choose. I would pick that over letting my kids run amok. It would be SO MUCH EASIER, if I just sat on the play ground and used my phone or read a book. But I do not. Because while you are giving your child the "opportunity to learn to calm themselves, assess their situation, and try to problem solve their own way out of it. to learn that to learn that falling is possible but worth the risk, and that they can, in fact, get up again". I am in fact making sure your child does not die. I am making sure that your kids does not throw rocks at my kid. I am making sure that your kid does not push my baby off the slide. I am parenting. We are not raising free range chickens here folks, they are kids and they need us to protect them, guide them, teach them right and wrong. And when my kid falls I want them to learn that I will be there to pick them up and that they are loved. And, because they are so loved I will help them face their fear and try it again.
And for those rare times I am not right there being the strong Mama Bear I claim to be and I see you help my kid down the slide or off the rock climbing wall-I want to say instead: THANK YOU. Thank you for helping my baby safely down and making sure my thrill seeking toddler can slide down the slide clearly labeled for 9 + (including a huge danger sign for parents that just don't get it). Because I would be there, but I can't right now. I am chasing my other toddler around with my heart in my mouth panicking because I can't be in two (or three) places at the same time.
I think if I wanted to adhere to a cliche parenting type. I would like to define myself as a "drone" parent. I am always there, hovering watching and ready to swoop in. I give my kids space but not too much because deep down -- they know -- I am somewhere close and watching. I am taking pictures of them. I am smiling and beaming at how amazing they are. And I will be there in a jiffy to help.
THANKS & YOU ARE WELCOME:
HELICOPTER MOM IN THE PLAYGROUND.
I get it. I do. You want your kids independent and you value their choices as future adults. You want to give them the "opportunity to learn to calm themselves, assess their situation, and try to problem solve their own way out of it. to learn that to learn that falling is possible but worth the risk, and that they can, in fact, get up again". I am calling out this blog in particular:
http://patch.com/california/alameda/bp--please-dont-help-my-kids
Because I have to push back. I am getting so tired of all these blogs circulating via facebook with parents calling out other parents for helping their kids. Because
you want to know what? I am an attentive parent and I am not going to apologize for it anymore.
On one part I like it. I want all those things for my kid too. But I also want my kids to live a long and healthy life. I have the internet so I read all the time about stupid accidents that happen to kids and I would never forgive myself if I was not there. So I try to find a balance. I do not want to be a "HELICOPTER" But honestly if I have to choose. I would pick that over letting my kids run amok. It would be SO MUCH EASIER, if I just sat on the play ground and used my phone or read a book. But I do not. Because while you are giving your child the "opportunity to learn to calm themselves, assess their situation, and try to problem solve their own way out of it. to learn that to learn that falling is possible but worth the risk, and that they can, in fact, get up again". I am in fact making sure your child does not die. I am making sure that your kids does not throw rocks at my kid. I am making sure that your kid does not push my baby off the slide. I am parenting. We are not raising free range chickens here folks, they are kids and they need us to protect them, guide them, teach them right and wrong. And when my kid falls I want them to learn that I will be there to pick them up and that they are loved. And, because they are so loved I will help them face their fear and try it again.
And for those rare times I am not right there being the strong Mama Bear I claim to be and I see you help my kid down the slide or off the rock climbing wall-I want to say instead: THANK YOU. Thank you for helping my baby safely down and making sure my thrill seeking toddler can slide down the slide clearly labeled for 9 + (including a huge danger sign for parents that just don't get it). Because I would be there, but I can't right now. I am chasing my other toddler around with my heart in my mouth panicking because I can't be in two (or three) places at the same time.
I think if I wanted to adhere to a cliche parenting type. I would like to define myself as a "drone" parent. I am always there, hovering watching and ready to swoop in. I give my kids space but not too much because deep down -- they know -- I am somewhere close and watching. I am taking pictures of them. I am smiling and beaming at how amazing they are. And I will be there in a jiffy to help.
And Yes, I will help your kid down the slide too. Because your kid is begging for help while you ignore him/her and my kid is next in line and wants a turn too.
I know, I am so un-cool.
I am making sure your kid stops doing whatever he or she is doing to my kid because you are practicing a hip laid back parenting style and sitting on the bench using your smart phone. You drink wine at BBQs and I chase kids. I hover and protect and watch my kids like a hawk and I am also watching over your kids too. Your welcome. All this just makes it really stressful for me and honestly I have enough stress right now. I don't need more. But I love kids and I want them all happy and safe--especially mine.
I know, I am so un-cool.
I am making sure your kid stops doing whatever he or she is doing to my kid because you are practicing a hip laid back parenting style and sitting on the bench using your smart phone. You drink wine at BBQs and I chase kids. I hover and protect and watch my kids like a hawk and I am also watching over your kids too. Your welcome. All this just makes it really stressful for me and honestly I have enough stress right now. I don't need more. But I love kids and I want them all happy and safe--especially mine.
THANKS & YOU ARE WELCOME:
HELICOPTER MOM IN THE PLAYGROUND.
Thursday, December 4, 2014
Why cesarean births are a good choice for you and baby!
As some of you know I had two cesarean births, and struggled with the "meaning" of both because I was convinced for some reason V was better. I have been talking and thinking a lot about birth lately as some of my best friends are pregnant or trying to become pregnant. I hear the same conversations from them about being "afraid" of epidurals or c-sections. I keep trying to say healthy babies are happy babies but I must admit my birth experiences were not what I had "wanted". Today out of the blue my daughter said to me (I paraphrase) : "Mom, remember when I was in your belly? It was really dark in there and I wanted to come out. But I could not find the door. It was scary. I looked for a door and I looked and Looked. I found your heart beat and that made me feel better but I pulled on it and I still could not find a door and I really wanted to come out." Now, She was breech, nestled close, under my heart & we tried a version but it did not work. We had a cesarean birth three days later. The cord was tied twice around her neck. She would not have survived a vaginal birth. I replied "Well, Your Doctor and I knew you were having a hard time finding the door. So we made one for you!"...."yes" she replies " I remember I liked that door. Thank you Mommy." ANd that conversation just blew my mind. I had to share to those of you working on birthing choices to know that a cesarian birth can and is a good thing physically and spiritually for you and baby.
wIth my first birth I took a "hypnobirthing" class--all about meditation and I did learn a lot from it--including the power of the birth plan. But the teacher was insinuating when we were having complications and breech presentation that it lead from a deep fear of mine and that I needed to meditate and heal myself-which lead to guilt and confusion on my side--thinking I was somehow to blame. I left the class, and used what I wanted from the course, and actually had an amazing and calm, love filled sacred cesarean birth. WIth my son we attempted vbac but it did not work, but again, I was prepared and okay with it due to a stellar birth plan. Again we had another lovely and sacred cesarean birth and this time I got to enjoy the beauty of labour and the connection it created with my baby. As part of the healer/spiritual community I get sad about the guilt we place on each other and ourselves--be it how we conceive, give birth, or feed our children. The fact that men and women alike assume that if it is true for them or their family it must be true for everyone else too. When I was pregnant with my son, and struggling with it my brother insinuated that birth and pregnancy were easy and that I was making a big deal out of nothing--mainly because his wife had easy pregnancy and births. I have heard some women and men scoff at IVF conception, pity a woman who gives birth via cesarean, or gt preachy at the mention of epidurals or medications during birth, still many more shudder at a woman who gives formula or other who are disgusted when a woman nurses in public--and god-forbid she nurses a toddler! We create a cloud of fear for women who are in a very fragile place in their lives, so my point is--to those of us who are struggling or looking for approval or peace--I just want you to know you are doing okay and you and your baby and your family are making the right choices!! I DID have the birth both me and my babies I wanted. My main point here is is trying to explain that the births I had were the right choice, not just medically but spiritually as well! And, I really really hope we all (me included) stop thinking that cesarean births are some-how "less than" or somehow not complete. Because they are. Even our babies agree.
my two very healthy and happy cesarean birth babies!
wIth my first birth I took a "hypnobirthing" class--all about meditation and I did learn a lot from it--including the power of the birth plan. But the teacher was insinuating when we were having complications and breech presentation that it lead from a deep fear of mine and that I needed to meditate and heal myself-which lead to guilt and confusion on my side--thinking I was somehow to blame. I left the class, and used what I wanted from the course, and actually had an amazing and calm, love filled sacred cesarean birth. WIth my son we attempted vbac but it did not work, but again, I was prepared and okay with it due to a stellar birth plan. Again we had another lovely and sacred cesarean birth and this time I got to enjoy the beauty of labour and the connection it created with my baby. As part of the healer/spiritual community I get sad about the guilt we place on each other and ourselves--be it how we conceive, give birth, or feed our children. The fact that men and women alike assume that if it is true for them or their family it must be true for everyone else too. When I was pregnant with my son, and struggling with it my brother insinuated that birth and pregnancy were easy and that I was making a big deal out of nothing--mainly because his wife had easy pregnancy and births. I have heard some women and men scoff at IVF conception, pity a woman who gives birth via cesarean, or gt preachy at the mention of epidurals or medications during birth, still many more shudder at a woman who gives formula or other who are disgusted when a woman nurses in public--and god-forbid she nurses a toddler! We create a cloud of fear for women who are in a very fragile place in their lives, so my point is--to those of us who are struggling or looking for approval or peace--I just want you to know you are doing okay and you and your baby and your family are making the right choices!! I DID have the birth both me and my babies I wanted. My main point here is is trying to explain that the births I had were the right choice, not just medically but spiritually as well! And, I really really hope we all (me included) stop thinking that cesarean births are some-how "less than" or somehow not complete. Because they are. Even our babies agree.
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Healing Arts Creative Mask Workshop
I have been crafting and making art all of my life. Not that any is that good, I have tried to sell it numerous times at stores and craft fairs and itsy bitsy online stores and such. Nada. However, I keep on making the stuff. I realize that for me my desire to make art isn't tied to my need to make money-if that were the case I would have stopped a long time ago. I create because it helps me heal and work through problems I am internalizing. Ever hear that old phrase "Let Go, Let God" ? Well for me--art helps me let go. Because all the other ways of release-yoga, prayer, reconciliation, meditation, chants, mantras, affirmations, etc. They just don't work for me. I need to feel it and see it--thus my art. I have been making masks for years. It started in a college class--for theater, prop making. We made masks. I fell in love. LOVE. It just felt so right, so good. I have made many many masks. I have given a lot--well, most of them actually,--away. Why? Because once I tell that story, once I release that emotion, prayer, or wish I offer it to the universe and usually one way or another a mask will remind me of a person or they will pick it up and say"Oh, I love this" and so it is theirs. No questions asked, it has found its new home. After literally years of wanting to do something with my masks and my love for them-- I have had an idea in my heart for years but never taken the leap to make it real. After a conversation with a wonderful sage of a woman/friend I was inspired to take action-And...it is happening finally. So may I proudly introduce my newest dream come true...
Event Design, Workshops, healing play and energy work to shift your experience with Staigepatchy. March 3, 10, 17, 24 and 31, 2014 at Jaffrey Civic Center, NH.
888-861-7223
www.Staigepatchy.webs.com
I am an actor, director, improviser, event planner,Reiki healer and artist who wants to
help you manifest change in your life via HANDS ON CREATIVE PLAY and FUN!
MASK MAKING WORKSHOP -5 week workshop $100.00 +material fees per person
I will help you make a mask to help aid you heal and manifest change in your life.
Shape your desires into the real world with your own creative force and imagination!
Week 1-Focusing on change-private consult/reading and a channeled writing followed by
ceremonial shredding/release & creative focus for future
Week 2-Re-membering the past & infusing your future. paper mache creation & mask
sculpting
Week 3- Learning how to treat yourself like a precious object- painting and decorating the
future self/mask
Week 4-Becoming the new you– creative improv and healing play with your mask via
setting your intentions and plan of action
Week 5—Celebration– coming together as a group to display our art and
discuss our new directions. Guests by invite only. Concluded with a
group meditation and reiki healing.
888-861-7223
www.Staigepatchy.webs.com
staigepatchy@yahoo.com
Event Design, Workshops, healing play and energy work to shift your experience with Staigepatchy. March 3, 10, 17, 24 and 31, 2014 at Jaffrey Civic Center, NH.
888-861-7223
www.Staigepatchy.webs.com
I am an actor, director, improviser, event planner,Reiki healer and artist who wants to
help you manifest change in your life via HANDS ON CREATIVE PLAY and FUN!
MASK MAKING WORKSHOP -5 week workshop $100.00 +material fees per person
I will help you make a mask to help aid you heal and manifest change in your life.
Shape your desires into the real world with your own creative force and imagination!
Week 1-Focusing on change-private consult/reading and a channeled writing followed by
ceremonial shredding/release & creative focus for future
Week 2-Re-membering the past & infusing your future. paper mache creation & mask
sculpting
Week 3- Learning how to treat yourself like a precious object- painting and decorating the
future self/mask
Week 4-Becoming the new you– creative improv and healing play with your mask via
setting your intentions and plan of action
Week 5—Celebration– coming together as a group to display our art and
discuss our new directions. Guests by invite only. Concluded with a
group meditation and reiki healing.
888-861-7223
www.Staigepatchy.webs.com
staigepatchy@yahoo.com
Friday, September 13, 2013
pat a cake bakery time
this morning two things happened, one i noticed we were out of bread and two, my daughter and i were playing pat a cake pretend kitchen nd i thought, what a great way to spend day and be productive...let us make breads!
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